How do you recover from events that have happened to your body, mind and spirit? How do you connect with your loved one when the activities that you used to do together are no longer an option? What do you do when you have begun to move forward, live life again, but your loved one isn't able to? I've been asking myself these questions for years now. I wish I knew the answers.
The only answer I have for now is that we're learning to ask for help. We're blessed with some amazing neighbors, that are in their 70's, that helped us cut up a couple felled trees. A couple of Aaron's friends came out for a week to help clear some brush. A group from our church is coming out in April to help me burn 45 brush piles that I cleared off the fence line & to stack the wood from the felled trees.You can only call in so many favors though before people get tired of helping. I'll be honest though, I'd rather have Aaron do all these things with me. I know that he'd rather be a participant than a spectator, because life is better when you're part of the action. I wish that he could access the places that aren't accessible with the ATV. The only solution is to purchase a "track chair" but at a cost of $15,000 and a V.A. not willing to purchase one (its considered a recreational item) it'll be a long time before that happens. Never mind the fact that he has fallen regularly when trying to maneuver his manual chair around in the dirt & rocks outside & it's comes down to a safety issue. I get it. I understand that the VA has a budget to keep. I'm hoping to find a non-profit to assist us, which I know is asking a lot, but I have faith that something will come about.
So, I apologize that this post is not my normal upbeat, brighter side of life perspective, but it's simply that I'm facing reality...again. I don't like it, but I will press on like I always do. One day at a time in this life I now call a scavenger hunt!
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